People are too hung up on this concept of "keeping everything relaxed" and "keeping everyone happy"
Sometimes people need a little dose of MEDICINE and it's not always pleasant.
No normal Doctor you go to will tell you "yes, I will cure your disease, and I will make certain you will feel very comfortable during the entire surgery and you will always feel and think I am really nice and friendly, and nothing will ever make you feel offended".
I love sayings like this, there is always so much truth in these old sayings, that's why they keep beings said for hundreds of years, by all different cultures, in various ways.
This particular saying is one of my favorites.
It refers to the concept of getting so involved in "winning" a particular argument, or being right in a particular situation, that even though we may accomplish "winning" that particular time, in essence, winning that time may be the very thing that causes us to "Lose The War".
This is a something I wrote for my own personal blog, I'm just re-copying it here. So, where I say "I say here in my profile" I don't mean my profile here on Connect, I am referring to my profile there.
I say here in my profile that I am interested in serious Krsna consciousness. What that means to me is knowing where you're heading and doing everything possible to get there.
"A lucid dream, also known as a conscious dream, is a dream in which the person is aware that he or she is dreaming while the dream is in progress. During lucid dreams, it is possible to exert conscious control over the dream characters and environment, as well as to perform otherwise physically impossible feats. Lucid dreams can be extremely real and vivid depending on a person's level of self-awareness during the lucid dream."
Definition from Wikipedia
So much of our devotional lives depend on our relationships with other devotees. We can't please Krishna if we can't get along nicely and have good relationships with His devotees.
There is a famous story about a Taoist farmer that goes like this:
This farmer had only one horse, and one day the horse ran away. The neighbors came to console him over his terrible loss. The farmer said, "What makes you think it is so terrible?"
A month later, the horse came home--this time bringing with her two beautiful wild horses. The neighbors became excited at the farmer's good fortune. Such lovely strong horses! The farmer said, "What makes you think this is good fortune?"
The other night I went to a meeting in the town where I live. It's a group of spiritually minded people who get together to talk about spiritual subjects.
I had never been before, and in fact, I didn't even know it existed in our little rural Southern town, until a friend of mine told me about it. He goes and thought I might find it interesting. So, I went.
Well, there were all kinds of spiritual subjects being discussed, that's for sure.... depending on your definition of "spiritual".
Hare Krishna :)
I was having this dream once where I was in the middle of this room, and all around me, there were enemies coming, from all sides, and in all kinds of ways....
Some were attacking me with weapons, while others were plotting various schemes to discredit me and destroy my various family members. Some of my friends and family were there also being harmed, and needed my help and protection.
There were so many attacks, on so many levels, and they were all coming at me at once, there was no possible way I could address or manage all of them....
"When the demigods saw that Krishna was constructing a particular city of His own choice, the sent the celebrated parijata flower of the heavenly planet to be planted in the new city.
They also sent a parliamentary house, Sudharma.
The specific quality of this assembly house was that anyone participating in a meeting within it would overcome the influence of invalidity due to old age.
The demigod Varuna also presented a horse, which was all white except for black ears and which could run at the speed of the mind.
Hare Krishna : )
I remember when I first found out about Krishna, I had gotten a Bhagavad Gita, and a Krishna book, and some Japa beads.
It was 1970, and things were fairly simple then. Meaning, those were the only books, there was no internet of course, and even the "oldest" "most experienced" devotees were very new in terms of how things are now days.
I read the Bhagavad Gita, and the Krishna book, and started chanting japa.
I thought Krishna was amazing, I was so fond of Him, and was reading that we could Love Krishna.