How is it possible to control sex desire?
Q : how is it possible to control sex desire?
A : Hare Krishna, Thank you for your question. Different things can be said about controlling sex desire. Krishna explains in Bhagavad-gita that lust arises from contemplating the objects of the senses.
Q : then what to do?
A : Therefore try to avoid thinking about or seeing the opposite sex as far as possible.
Q : but today it is very difficult
A : The secret according to Krishna is to get a higher taste from spiritual activities.
Q : how?
A : We have to engage the mind is hearing and chanting about Krishna and performing practical service for Krishna. We also should eat vegetarian food that is offered to Krishna.
In these ways we can spiritualize our mind by engaging it in Krishna's service.
Another thing is that we should not be impatient because sex desire is something that we have been involved with for many lifetimes. It is not like it will disappear suddenly. But it becomes easier to tolerate as we absorb our mind in a positive spiritual way.
We can read sections from the scripture that describe how entangling sex desire is. These include the Forest of Enjoyment chapter of the Fifth Canto, Lord Kapila's teachings about adverse fruitive activities in the Third Canto, the Aila Gita from the Eleventh Canto, etc.
These convince us intellectually of the value of controlling sex desire.
Q : I will read it
A : Then there are also foods that can be avoided. Don't eat too many grains or yogurt at night. Don't eat lots of rich foods like cashew nuts. This causes nocturnal emissions.
Don't talk about mundane male/female relationships or associate with people who do.
Bhakti Vikas Swami has a book on Brahmacarya, celibacy. You can find it on his web site www.bvks.com.
Q : ok thanks for solution I will try to read it then
A : Very well. Good luck. You can also pray to Krishna. That definitely helps. Kapila's teachings are in Canto three, Chapter 30. And Aila Gita is Canto Eleven, Chapter 26.