I want to be a devotee but I have difficulty abstaining from sex impulses. How can I get rid of them?
Hare Krishna! Thanks for your question.
Abstaining from and controlling sex impulses is quite difficult. Getting rid of these impulses is not an easy thing, and depends greatly on how one lives their life. If you: avoid eating heavy food at night, or overeating at mealtime, choose good association, refrain from watching TV and mundane movies, eat sattvic foods, regulate your lifestyle so that you go to sleep and rise early, chant regularly, and study shastra (scripture) daily; all these things will greatly assist you in regulating your passionate and ignorant impulses. Keeping yourself busy by doing your duty or in service to the temple and the devotees will also help to control your lower nature.
Of all the items mentioned above, the most important is good association. If you associate with persons who are addicted to the opposite sex, to sexual activity, who center their lives around their bodies, it will be almost impossible for you to regulate your sex impulses. By getting association with persons who, like you, are trying to clean up their life, regulate their senses and focus their minds on spiritual things, you will find strength and determination. Association is very, very important.
Hearing is also very important. Regularly reading and hearing people speaking on Vedic philosophy will help you to understand the workings of the three modes of nature and enable you to keep from being victimized.
I hope this is helpful.