My husband is very strict and dominating, we're not getting along, and this makes me very depressed. What should I do?
by Laxmimoni dasi
It is difficult for me to offer material suggestions as I know very little about your relationship and I am sure it is very, very complex. But the Lord Krishna works in strange ways sometimes to teach us various lessons. Sometimes if we can just change our vision then the material circumstances don't appear as bleak as before.
Generally we consider things that make our lives uncomfortable or troublesome undesirable and they make us depressed. But after a time we may see things differently.
Often Krishna's mercy is not easily recognizable. He takes away our pride, lust, greed, and anger - often by putting us into humbling and enlightening situations - but we won't learn those lessons unless we are open to them and consider carefully that actually that there are no undesirable things, only lessons to be learned. Really it is our vision that is coloring what makes us happy and unhappy.
Generally, what is materially uncomfortable makes us unhappy. For example, for a child, going to school makes him unhappy until he grows and matures. For a woman, childbirth makes her unhappy until she is holding her newborn in her arms - so many examples are there. The material world is always full of suffering ( dukhalayam) and it is temporary ( ashasvatam) and that will always be the case, but if we see His hand in everything and understand that He only wants our welfare then we'll accept everything as His mercy and we'll always be happy.