What is the most efficient way to control lusty desires?
The most efficient— maximum results with least wasted energy—way to control lust is to act in Krishna consciousness.
If we're inside a material body, chances are that our natural love for the Supreme Person, prema, has been transformed into kama, lust. We're competing with God; we want to be the controllers and enjoyers. But because that's not our natural position, frustration sets in. Frustration drives intelligent people to surrender to Krishna.
When Krishna says, " surrender unto Me," He's talking about full and constant surrender. He will deliver us from all our troubles—including lusty desires—to the degree we apply ourselves to the process of Krishna consciousness. This is why constant chanting of the Hare Krishna mantra is so strongly recommended; that one simple act keeps us in touch with Krishna through sound. It's such a powerful meditation that even chanting once purely can change the trajectory of our life.
Lust is the number one enemy of self-realization. Unless one constantly meditates on Krishna—by chanting His names, hearing His teachings, or by other practical engagement of the senses—the mind's default tendency is to meditate on how to enjoy and control the sense objects. Without a steady diet of transcendental knowledge and activity, it's easy to fall off the spiritual path.
The recommended diet for controlling lusty desires is Krishna prasadam, and the recommended medication is to always chant Hare Krishna.
- Srimad-Bhagavatam, 6.1.62, purport:
" Unless one is very strong in knowledge, patience and proper bodily, mental and intellectual behavior, controlling one's lusty desires is extremely difficult. Thus after seeing a man embracing a young woman and practically doing everything required for sex life, even a fully qualified brahmana, as described above, could not control his lusty desires and restrain himself from pursuing them. Because of the force of materialistic life, to maintain self-control is extremely difficult unless one is specifically under the protection of the Supreme Personality of Godhead through devotional service."
- Srimad-Bhagavatam, 6.4.14, purport:
" One is always a servant of lusty desires, anger, greed, illusion, envy and so forth, but if one obtains sufficient strength in spiritual advancement, one can control them. One who obtains such control will always be transcendentally situated, untouched by the modes of material nature. This is only possible when one fully engages in the service of the Lord. As the Lord says in Bhagavad-gita ( 14.26), 'One who engages in full devotional service, who does not fall down in any circumstance, at once transcends the modes of material nature and thus comes to the spiritual platform.' By engaging one in devotional service, the Krishna consciousness movement keeps one always transcendental to anger, greed, lust, envy and so forth. One must perform devotional service because otherwise one will become victimized by the modes of material nature."
- Srimad-Bhagavatam, 9.19.19, purport:
" Those who are under the control of maya, and specifically under the control of lusty desires, are called maya-mriga. Indeed, everyone in the conditional stage of material life is a maya-mriga. It is said, maya-mrigam dayitayepsitam anvadhavad: [ SB 11.5.34] Sri Chaitanya Mahaprabhu took sannyasa to show His causeless mercy to the maya-mrigas, the people of this material world, who suffer because of lusty desires. One should follow the principles of Sri Chaitanya Mahaprabhu and always think of Krishna in full Krishna consciousness."