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A Fool for Love

Is it really so surprising
that anyone--even a senior--
would be a fool
for love and intimacy?

So many are affected
by the lure of infatuated love,
the need to be understood, appreciated
and accepted by a dear friend.

Whenever I hear or
make a criticism, I know
what I see is also
within me, at least potentially.

Criticizing another is
putting my self above them,
forgetting my own defects
and vulnerabilities.

Sometimes the loudest judgment
arises from hidden secrets
of those with similar problems
or who fear that part of themselves.

Certainly there are standards
to be encouraged and upheld, yet
the shortcomings we notice in others
often say more about us than them.

Is our first reaction
anger and indignation,
or do we feel compassion
and think to reach out to help?

We are so quick to
forget the value of a person,
the good they have done, to speak
their infamy with four mouths.

Combined comments from old site

Sun, 04/20/2008 - 21:59 — bhaktingeri-lynn
Hare krsna Prabhu!

This is so lovely! thank you for posting!

Bhn. Geri-Lynn

Tue, 04/15/2008 - 20:59 — Dhama Rupini
Beautiful Poem

Hare Krsna Prabhu,
Thanks ever so much for sharing your lovely poem. I agree with you that humans seek positive reinforcement; the need to be loved, appreciated and accepted even the so called , strongest individual may falter at times.We need to strive however to go beyond these needs or feelings.
Your poem also gives insight on human beings whimsical nature.we need to constantly reflect on our life's mission to avoid being caught up in this materialistic world.
Thanks for sharing this with us.


Wed, 04/16/2008 - 06:36 — Karnamrita.das
A feeling world

Hi Julie, thanks for stopping by and taking the time to comment. Time is a precious commodity which we especially appreciate when we are aware that we have a limited amount left in our current body.

This world is a reflection of the spiritual world. That world is the true world of feelings, where we are lead by our love for Krishna and our relationship with him. Here we are ruled by our feelings, often against our reasoning---and we often pay the price.

The path of Bhakti is about reviving our spiritual emotions in relationship to Krishna. When we love Krishna, and have a taste for spiritual life, then we naturally follow that. One of the stages of spiritual advancement is called, Ruchi (see Prabhupada's Gita purport to 4.11 for them all, which is a quote from Rupa Goswami). Ruchi also corresponds to the 4th verse of Lord Chaitanya's sikshastam prayer.

In ruchi, we have real taste for serving Krishna and as a a result have no interest in material enjoyment. Untlil we are situated in Ruchi, we will still be attracted by the love and enjoyments of the world. Truly love (so-called here) makes the world go around. Love means sacrifice or giving, so even here we can learn what it means, and as a devotee, direct that towards Krishna, and the devotees who inspire us.

Your friend in Krishna,



Sun, 04/20/2008 - 10:13 — ekbhaktin8
Krishna's Love is so wonderful.

Hare KRishna Prabhuji.

Very nice poem. All your writings, actually.

Hare Krishna Julia.

To sum up the conversation between the 2 of you - just so i understand myself, not adding anything new.

If we turn to Krishna instead of people around us , then we automatically keep NO EXPECTATIONS from people. At least we will not have to 'strive to go beyond these needs or feelings'.

Then Krishna will help us get out of the material merry-go-round. We are in his hands now.

Then , how can we not develop ruchi ? Will it not follow naturally , automatically ? And Krishna will make us so strong in the process that we serve Him selflessly.

With His Love, we will be more sensitive to the needs of others, and appreciate them whenever possible. We will also not be averse to people for not behaving the way we want, as we don't expect anything. We will also love those who are aversive to us for whatever reason.

There will be no "I" obstructing the path of our service to the world , to His satisfaction.

Writing in my own words helps me figure things out : )

My Obeissances. Wonderful poem.


Tue, 04/15/2008 - 05:01 — Navasi

Very nice poem Karnamrita....

Who among us is free from the need to be loved and appreciated, to have friends to give us support and encouragement?

I also love what you're saying about how we see our own faults in others.... that's so true. If something bothers us about someone else, it's very likely that it is something that we ourselves have a problem with, whether we are willing/able to see that or not.

Also.... there's the saying: "we teach best what we need to learn most"...

Always loved that saying.
Thanks for sharing this poem. Very meaningful to me.



Wed, 04/16/2008 - 06:22 — Karnamrita.das

Hi Navasi. Good to "see" ya. People, and especially those we are close to, are mirrors for us. We notice in them what we have in ourselves. There is also a saying that you have likely heard that is appropriate for this topic, "We don't see the world as it is, but as we are." My wife, Archana-siddhi has an article in this months' BTG called "Relativity and the Path to the Absolute" which talks about everyone's subjective reality (based on the same couple which inspired my blog on this site called, "Subjective Reality in Relationships", which has found a wide audience on

Sharing what we most need to learn is very true. It is taught in the "Course in Miracles" which has many other insights as well.

Thanks for your insightful sharing and blogs!

Your friend in Krishna,


Mon, 04/14/2008 - 22:30 — Hari kanta
Very Honestly

Thanks for this writings i find very honestly expression and humble attitude from older devotee.


Wed, 04/16/2008 - 06:45 — Karnamrita.das
Honesty is the best policy

Hi, thanks for your comment. Being honest with ourself about our motivations, and standing in both Bhakti and material things is essential for progress. We have to learn to be real and avoid just cutting a profile to be accepted. Of course, imitation of a good thing is good (like habits of advanced devotees and our sadhana or spiritual practice like chanting even though we may not have much taste), but only if it is progressive, and not just a show. Also we can't get help unless we share our struggles with advanced devotees who inspire us and have time to help.

We also have to see clearly the pitfalls and our personal demons and temptations. Making an honest assessment of our strengths and weaknesses is also helpful.

Your friend in Krishna,



Wed, 04/16/2008 - 06:56 — Navasi


I just LOVE this comment Karnamrita!!!

Honesty, honesty, and more honesty!

People need to really really really stop this "cutting a profile" stuff!

I'm always saying this... so, really love to hear you saying it too.

I think it takes time being "around" in this world, and being a devotee as well, to really see the futility of this...

But like you're saying.... it's true, and maybe others can learn to avoid it, by hearing us say it, rather than finding out the "hard way".

(though of course there is the saying that a fool learns by bitter experience ;) (speaking for myself of course, and anyone else who wants to be a fool .... lol )

Lovely comment!
Jaya! Haribol! : )